Change is inevitable. That's one of the major tenets of the postmodern pastoral counseling methods I became familiar with in my Ph.D. program. People come in for counseling saying "I'm depressed," or "I'm anxious," or "I'm an alcoholic," or "my relationship is so dysfunctional." Diagnosing themselves like that or using that problem-soaked language, while it can help in emphasizing the seriousness of a problem, can also lock people into a way of thinking about themselves that is not helpful. Human beings are always more than the labels they place upon themselves. And God is always at work doing a new thing. I like to think of that as God's job--24/7/365, with no burnout possible, always hard at work changing our grief into joy and our fear into courage. Yes, change is inevitable. It's a matter both of God at work and our virtual encasement in temporality. As a narrative counselor I try not to label people or use problem-soaked language.
Yet I don't discount the seriousness of problems that people have. In fact, I often felt that the postmodern methods I was taught would have to be used in conjunction with more of the modern methodologies that I had experienced as a client in therapy myself through the years. That's proven to be the case so far. I use a combination of both methodologies. But the postmodern tenet that change is inevitable is so worth keeping at the forefront. People get better all the time without the help of any counseling or therapy at all. Our own agency is key.
And outside the counseling paradigm, change is inevitable is worth remembering, too--when we hit a little roadblock in our plans, in the way we've laid out how the future will be. Suddenly, poof! it's all gone and the wind goes straight out of our sails. Many times, all we have to do is wait a while...The Spirit is just blowing in a different direction. Wait a while. All will be well again.